Archive for September 4th, 2009

It happens: Grok this

September 4, 2009

“I am Free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am Free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.” –Robert A. Heinlein




It’s Friday: do what feels right.

Everyone should be able to make some music; that’s the cosmic dance

September 4, 2009

I did my own homework and I’ve got my first romantic movie that has magic I can believe in. Harold and Maude takes on the most important aspects of love, which I think are the closest to a spiritual call for completeness that can only be found with another human being, a way of touching the infinite by gaining greater understanding of the world around you through the portal of another person, and you have to start by admitting your own foolish and cowardly humanity.

The way to do this is by having the courage to allow someone else into your life, to take chances, not to look for the safe or expected, but to strike out, to accept that love is radical and may change you. Being brave and maybe even impulsive, what an admirable and seldom-done thing that is these days I suspect.

Why is this? What are we so afraid of? I am afraid, I admit it. I am totally afraid. I run from powerful emotions, I avoid thinking of things and people that upset me or move me strongly, I look for the familiar and secure so that, while I may not be thrilled and shocked, I can be reassured that nothing will change, I run no risk that dangerous new ideas or emotions will reshape my heart. But that has been the wrong path. That is just simply the wrong way. And I won’t do that again, indulge in such bad faith to myself and whomever else, I have been trying with all my might to get bolder.

“We sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word has been spoken.” –Fyodor Dostoevsky


HAROLD: But Maude, you don’t understand. I love you. Do you hear me? I’ve never said that to anyone in my life before. You’re the first. Maude. Please don’t leave me.
MAUDE: That’s wonderful, Harold. Go out and love some more.

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”–Albert Schweitzer

But your heart must be open to the encouter and it takes courage to let that person work their magic on you. Pray for that courage.

Advice: Daily Batman

September 4, 2009

Sorry, Jerry Hall, but I’ve got a passion for fashion.




Unlikely G: Inaugural Edition featuring Miz Ally Sheedy aka “The Misfit” of Breakfast Club fame

September 4, 2009

Unlikely G* Ally Sheedy would like you to know who is awesome.


“You are!” Or maybe someone over your left shoulder. Tough to say. But my money is on you.


*Often I find that in pictures people accidentally assume an unintentional coolness in their facial expression or posture which makes them an unexpected and unlikely gangsta, or, as the cool kids say, “g.” Unlikely g’s delight me.

A confession: More like a dirty secret

September 4, 2009

This confession could get me kicked out of girlhood. It’s more like a dirty secret. You may think of me differently after you read it, or you may recognize the same feelings in yourself (I’m hoping for that latter). It’s a popular film and I have what seems to be an unpopular opinion of it. You will need to click the image to read this confession more clearly.



I know, I know. I am a horrible person, probably, for this secret. I am totally out of the With-It Girls’ Club. But I’m sorry, I just no longer support compromising.

I don’t want to cry in the shower anymore because it didn’t work out how I thought it would, because I’m crying over a system this movie symbolizes, a broken and stupid system which I can no longer support and will not allow to hurt me anymore. I must try to remember that I deserve love because I’m me, and I must not cease to hope that love will come in some form or another because people are supposed I think to be together, however they can, to whatever degree they are capable and desiring of it. There doesn’t have to be a story that fits with the expectations that have been set for me by school, religion, the media, and other women. I can set my own expectations and believe in my own magic and seek love for no other reason than because I want it and I deserve it and it is up to me to decide how and when it will be. I can just write that story myself.

I’m going to think of movies that I believe have the courage to tackle love in a real way and maybe, if I can think of some and have anything to say about them, try to draw attention to them here from time to time. That’s my project, that’s how I’m going to handle my sadness and anger and despondency over these things. I’m going to do my small part. Or try.

Be the light in the darkness

September 4, 2009

“We can destroy ourselves by cynicism and disillusion, just as effectively as by bombs.” –Kenneth Clark


When I read that Kenneth Clark quote, I thought right away of this picture and quote from Carl Sagan.



I think we often catch sight of our cosmic tininess and we grow despairing. I often have. Like, why does it matter, what’s the point, I’m dust, I’m nothing, on and on. But I think I’ve been on the wrong track, and there is positivity to be mined here. There is no reason at all to let this beautiful picture and quote by Carl Sagan discourage you or make you feel like giving up. Like Clark said, we mustn’t let cynicism destroy us. You are not insignificant — you are incredible. What a phenomeon you are, and what a short time you have to blaze like the miracle you were intended to be. Light up a dark place today!