via fyeahww on the tumblr
“Wonder Woman — and the trend toward male acceptance of female love power which she represents — indicates that the first psychological step has actually been taken. Boys, young and old, satisfy their wish thoughts by reading comics. If they go crazy over Wonder Woman, it means they’re longing for a beautiful, exciting girl who’s stronger than they are. By their comics tastes ye shall know them! … Wonder Woman satisfies the subconscious, elaborately disguised desire of males to be mastered by a woman who loves them.
… Normal men retain their childish longing for a woman to mother them. At adolescence a new desire is added. They want a girl to allure them. When you put these two together, you have the typical male yearning that Wonder Woman satisfies.”
(Marston, William Moulton qtd. in “Our Women Are Our Future.” Richard, Olive.* The Family Circle. August 14, 1942.
Art by Phil Noto.
Marston was Wonder Woman’s creator, but that’s a story for another day. Also he lived in a polyamorous relationship with his wife and the author of this article, Ms. Richard, but that is also a story for another day. I’m pleased that this brief dive into psychology has already uncovered an aspect of Wonder Woman that leaves me cold, or that I feel I do not share. I don’t mind taking initiative (especially in certain aspects of the relationship), but I hate being the stronger one.
Denise Milani.
I dislike getting pushed in to the corner and forced to make decisions and ask repeatedly for a thing to be done that has to be done and can only be done by my partner. It makes me feel like a nagging bitch, which I fear and hate, and it’s not fair. I want to be equals, I want to feel like we can rely on one another. I don’t even necessarily want to be total equals; I don’t know that I’d want to completely submit to a partner, but it would be nice to relax and feel taken care of. Not to always worry, not to be the only one tuned in to the big picture — not to feel alone.
Art by quasilucid via fyeahww on the tumblr
And it starts out all nice-guy like, “No, you pick a restaurant. I don’t care where we go,” or, “Let’s get something you want to see,” but it builds in to this passive-aggressive thing where it turns to this slow-simmering resentment on both sides. Mine because I don’t want to be in charge, at all, ever, I hate feeling that way and I hate being forced to lose respect for someone I love; the other person’s because even though they have put me in this position of power it was really to avoid responsibility and now they’re feeling mutinous, the immaturity of which makes me see that they really are, in fact, weaker than me and makes me lose even more respect. When I can’t respect someone, then I don’t feel like I have a partner, and when I don’t feel like I have a partner, I don’t feel safe, and when I don’t feel safe, I am out of love.
I hate, hate, hate that aspect of a relationship. I hate being more powerful. There might actually be literally nothing that I hate more than that when it comes to love.
Cheese blintzes, looks like Day 2 was pretty damned educational for me. I’m going let that make up for the week and some odd days in between Days 1 and 2.
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The Thought Experiment 
October 15, 2010 at 7:25 pm |
Oh wow, this was good stuff. If you haven’t already, you should check out Gaudy Night by Dorothy L. Sayers. A book that thrills people who feel this way. I promise.
October 19, 2010 at 12:17 pm |
Speaking for myself, I’m attracted to Wonder Woman for simpler reasons than a secret desire to be dominated by feminine strength or a surrogate mother that can also fulfill sexual desire. She is just simply hot. Admittedly this is shallow.
I would offer a counter interpretation to a Wonder Woman attraction. The strength of Wonder Woman can also present a challenge to masculinity. As a man, how affirming would it be (in a masculine sense), to get a woman like Wonder Woman to fall in love with you, to have her emotionally invest herself in you, to have a woman of this strength and conviction consider you an equal or, alternatively, even submit to you on some level? I think that is as valid an explanation as Marston’s Oedipal explanation.
I completely understand your perspective on being the stronger one, and your aversion to it. Though I’m sure the examples you draw from personally accurately embody your feelings and perspectives, I would also point out that delegating responsibility to another is also what people in positions of power do. I could delegate the authority of choice to you, because I truly don’t care and I have other more pressing concerns. In the grand scheme of successfully running an adult life, choosing a restaurant or movie is a pretty low and insignificant priority all things considered.
Walking in front of someone doesn’t always make you the leader.
October 20, 2010 at 1:56 pm |
Well, of course someone wanting you to choose where to go from time to time because it doesn’t matter is not of what I was speaking. You know that.
But your first paragraph is intriguing. I especially like the having her submit aspect.
October 22, 2010 at 10:48 am |
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/201010/why-intelligent-people-drink-more-alcohol